Follow:
Adventures, Family Adventures, Favorites, Parenting

Why I Say Yes to My Kids

Have you ever had “one of those days”? You know those days that seem like you just can’t find the happiness and adventure that goes along with being a mom. The days you long for a warm cup of coffee and a really great babysitter to whisk your kids away while you run away and get a massage? Yeah it was one of “those” days. 

It felt like we were hitting a wall over and over again!  Austin & I  kept butting heads and on top of it Charlotte wasn’t napping.  My parents were in town and we were dragging the kids every which way. Austin was having little breakdowns and fighting me on every single thing. I was exhausted to say the least.. 

My parents last day came and went and we said our goodbyes. I quickly loaded the kids up and headed to the gym. Austin was crying in the back seat and Charlotte was protesting in her own way. Neither wanted to go sit in a gym day care for an hour and they both were on the verge of losing it completely. Then Austin looked at me and said “Mama, can I watch trucks at the gym?”  That’s what he says when he wants to watch cartoons on our iPhones. My heart sank. I asked myself. Had every uncomfortable, awful situation led him to wanting to watch cartoons on our phones or watching tv? Do we constantly shove these things in his face to shut him up? When did we resort to this type of response.

At that moment, I promised myself no more phones, no more tv and no more ignoring their requests (well maybe never but we needed to cut back).  My kids are 1 & 3 and they don’t want to be dragged around all day. They want to explore, play outside, wrestle with each other and snuggle. So this is how I said yes for the rest of the day and cut back on using electronics to soothe their every little need, or when I needed a break from them.

  • I put away my phone and listened to them. This was the easiest way to get on my kids level. Too often I’m distracted by social media.
  • I got on their level. I sat down and asked them what they wanted to do. So simple! I was in the car heading to the gym and I pulled over. I looked Austin in the eyes and asked what he wanted to do today! Do you know what he said? Go look at trees.
  • We did exactly what they wanted to do! I drove to the first tree filled park I could find and we ran all over! Dodging in and out of the trees and smelling trees! Yes I said it. Smelling trees, not flowers. He laughed and laughed!
  • What did he request next? A cookie. So this is the hard part. I couldn’t say yes to it! There had to be some healthy tradeoff. I suggested fruit followed by a cookie. He was on board 😉 We walked to our favorite bakery down the street and laughed as he gobbled up some yummy fruit.
  • Silly things first - on our walk back he found a ramp that was right by the bank and it was the perfect running ramp. He wanted to go up and down 3 times with me holding his hand. Guess what? We did it! We laughed and he loved it! It was silly yes but it was simple and made him so happy!
  • Make sure his needs are met - we got in the car and he wanted my phone. I asked why? He said he had nothing to play with! We immediately pulled out books and before taking off I read two. The whole way home I heard him reading to himself in the back seat.

Will I put electronics away forever? Probably not. I don’t think they are the enemy or anything, but I also think there has to be limits. I am going to try my best to keep phones on mute when we are playing and having fun, after all they learn from us! And I will start saying yes to things that encourage them to explore and be happy. I love that Austin reminds me to slow down. To stop and to play and to enjoy this beautiful life that we have been given.

Previous Post Next Post

You may also like

34 Comments

  • Reply nicole

    Sometimes I catch myself and think, am I giving my son the attention he needs? Did I waste the day that could have been memory making? It is so hard to balance, but I love your ideas for how you gave your kids the rest of your day. It usually is the little things that count!

    January 17, 2018 at 12:55 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      We do the best we can!! Thanks for the sweet comment <3

      January 17, 2018 at 8:21 pm
  • Reply Aimee

    It’s so nice to have that intentional time with our littles. It’s my struggle to find a balance and keep myself from decompressing on the phone/internet. I am definitely striving for more intentional time this year!

    January 17, 2018 at 1:08 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      You and me both <3 T

      January 17, 2018 at 8:20 pm
  • Reply SOT

    Rosie! You are amazing. They are so blessed to have you as there mom and to try to understand them. You fulfilling their needs at such a young age is going to help then become the best little humans. It is so rare to see/hear someone being able to step back and look at their flaws so quickly and change them in an instant to grow their children since most of us are so structured to just go go go. Love you guys

    January 17, 2018 at 1:53 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      I absolutely LOVE your sweet comment! Thank you!!! <3

      January 17, 2018 at 8:20 pm
  • Reply Innana

    Love these tips! I think It’s so crucial to get back to basics and pay attention to what truly matters. It’s the little things <3

    January 17, 2018 at 2:15 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      I couldn’t agree more! Thanks for the sweet comment <3

      January 17, 2018 at 8:19 pm
  • Reply Barb

    Some good insight and some wise choices led to some wonderful discoveries and a much-better day!!! Congratulations on making all this happen!!!! Waaaay to go! – and live!!! 💐🎉

    January 18, 2018 at 12:01 am
    • Reply Rosie

      Thank you! Such a sweet comment. It did make for a much better day <3

      January 21, 2018 at 10:00 pm
  • Reply Kristi C

    Love this article and tips! Sometimes life is so busy and all of our electronics become our addictions. This is a great reminder to stop and not only listen to our kids but appreciate our limited time with them.

    January 18, 2018 at 5:53 am
    • Reply Rosie

      Thank you! Love your sweet comment.

      January 21, 2018 at 9:59 pm
  • Reply Jessica Small

    I needed this! What a great reminder to turn off the electronics and be present for our children. I get distracted too easily!

    January 18, 2018 at 6:23 am
    • Reply Rosie

      <3 So glad that it was a good read for you! Thank you for the sweet comment.

      January 21, 2018 at 9:58 pm
  • Reply Krystal

    I have a love/hate relationship with electronics. Sometimes I completely depend on them (like at a medical appointment) and sometimes I think they turn my children into little tech addict monsters. I can definitely tell when it is time for a screen break.

    January 18, 2018 at 7:38 am
    • Reply Rosie

      Yes I agree! Sometimes they are good and we are lucky to have them as resource but it’s all about balance for my family.

      January 21, 2018 at 9:58 pm
  • Reply Rachael

    Love this! We don’t do much screen time at all as it is, but sometimes I can get really wrapped up working from home that I don’t make enough time to play or facilitate new activities (my son does a great job entertaining himself, but I can’t expect it the entire time–he’s only 2). So I really love the reminder to take breaks and engage. I bet you still got a great workout running around the park! And for me, breaks will help me focus so I will remember to stop and play between tasks as well!

    January 18, 2018 at 7:53 am
    • Reply Rosie

      I agree I also need little brain time outs! IT really helps to run around and get some fresh air 🙂

      January 21, 2018 at 9:57 pm
  • Reply Adepoju Grace

    I don’t have kids yet but I’m learning about motherhood. Every child has their different love languages. Most of the time it’s being paid attention to. It’s good you decided to pay more attention to your kids.

    January 18, 2018 at 9:54 am
    • Reply Rosie

      Thank you! I think it’s more being present than paying attention. <3

      January 21, 2018 at 9:56 pm
  • Reply Celeste

    Love your approach in that situation, Rosie! We don’t have kids yet but I totally agree with the slowing down and appreciating what matters part 🙂

    January 18, 2018 at 12:16 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      Thank you! I am trying. It is so hard to slow down in life but it’s my goal for this year.

      January 21, 2018 at 9:55 pm
  • Reply Misty

    Very encouraging post to stop and pay attention to what matters most…our kids.

    January 18, 2018 at 3:22 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      Thank you! and I agree <3

      January 18, 2018 at 10:57 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      <3 Thank yoU!

      January 21, 2018 at 9:54 pm
  • Reply Rosie

    So often I tell myself to put away my phone and focus on the kids, but honestly so much time is spent with a little “quick peak” here and there while I’m just waiting for the kids to finish up a chore or meal. Next thing I know I’m scrolling thru social media, skimming the news, and just going thru my phone for no good reason. I loved how you actually made it a point to listen to Austin’s wants and needs (and stuck to your guns with the cookie!) I’ll try to figure out how to be more present for them during those trying times (ie it sometimes takes them an hour to eat a plate of food and drives me nuts! I can only talk about so many things to them before I realize they need silence to completely focus on eating. Thanks for sending positive mommy vibes with this read!

    January 19, 2018 at 2:26 am
    • Reply Rosie

      Thanks for the sweet comment!! I totally agree silence is good too 🙂

      January 21, 2018 at 9:54 pm
  • Reply Pamela

    This is a timely reminder to be present in the moment when I am with my kids. Thanks so much for this post.

    January 19, 2018 at 5:45 am
    • Reply Rosie

      <3 your welcome!

      January 21, 2018 at 9:53 pm
  • Reply Raina

    So true. It makes such a big difference in our kids when we put our electronics down and lift them up.

    January 20, 2018 at 6:16 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      It really does! I noticed my little one yelling at me the other day to get my attention and it broke my heart. Being present is so important to me.

      January 21, 2018 at 9:51 pm
  • Reply Kim

    I try to remind myself about being present all the time and put the phone down. Thanks for sharing.

    January 21, 2018 at 8:15 pm
    • Reply Rosie

      Your welcome <3

      January 21, 2018 at 9:50 pm
  • Reply Viktoria | Awesome Alice

    Sometimes I have to remind myself to put my phone away and spend time with my kids instead, and then I hate myself because I actually had to remind myself of this

    January 23, 2018 at 1:22 am
  • Leave a Reply